The Many Ways to Heal from Abuse
The main thing about abuse is that we repress as much of it as possible because it hurts and often humiliates us so who in their right mind wants to remember that, right?
The abuse we do remember is horrific, painful, tragic, unfair. It makes us angry, sad, weak, determined, resilient, funny, bitter, loving, defiant. It pushes us to join good causes and to want to help others. Sometimes it sends us to bed in prostration while we wait for the pain to abate. Abuse is inhuman and insane by nature, that’s why it creates so much mental illness and addiction. There can be some spiritual explanation for it and it has activated many healers and activists into their soul contract in this life time but there is no rational justification for abuse.
The abuse we do remember is easier to deal with: we know it’s there and nowadays we have a choice of dozens of ways to engage in recovering from the legacy of abuse:
- energy work (still my favorite as it is so thorough, gets to the core and can be modulated from gentle or fiercely efficient depending on what you need),
- prayer (powerful but often a little unfocused),
- angel work (VERY soothing but does not always get to the core of the issue),
- EMDR (powerful so make sure your therapist can catch you as you remember and you are not re-traumatised by the remembering),
- yoga (great to unlock the body and rebuild but seldom gets to the core of the issue in my opinion),
- re-hab if you became addicted to something to soothe you
(There are more ways than I can count so if you know of something not mentioned here, just leave a nice comment about it and I will add it to the list.)
Most of the time, if you remember a lot of abuse or if the abuse you remember was really bad, I am sorry to say that there is probably more that you don’t remember. Because in order to keep going, we repress as much of the pain and memories as we can.
Repressed memories and pain drive us to crazy behavior and to do things we are ashamed of because we don’t understand where they come from. So the first step is to decide that we are moving out of shame permanently and to call ourselves on it when we feel shame. Expose the shame to ourselves, forgive ourselves for going there then ask for help. Expert professional help as well as support, from friends, family, individuals or groups THAT WE TRUST!!
Then be ready for the roller coaster of healing the unconscious:
- for emotional bombs to explode in your face and heart,
- for parts of you that have been numb most of your life to come back to life,
- for glimmers of hope and opportunities that you had no idea were possible in your life
- for the secret pain that is revealed and dealt with to lose its energetic charge and stop being a tyrant in your life
- for the miracles to start…
That’s it, now you have graduated out of survival and you are ready to THRIVE!!! in joy. En-joy!