Recently @kelvinringold tweeted: “Winning is relative, you know. Sometimes losing can be winning.” which brought me back to one of my favorite topics at the moment: What is success?
By which I mean: what is success for me? I had my upper arm tattooed when I was 22 years old to be reminded daily that when I reached 40 I wanted to be able to look back and have no regrets. (It worked: I still have no regrets!)
So I guess that is my definition of success: being able to look back on my life without regrets. Each day I ask myself: If I knew I was going to die tomorrow, what would I choose now? How would I spend my time and who with? Is there anyone I love who does not know it? Is there anyone I am responsible for who is being neglected in any way? And I make all my decisions based on that. Have done since I was 20.
Never go to bed angry
Tell your kids you love them as they leave for the day
Only allow positive people in your life
Be grateful for what you love, have, enjoy (material and otherwise)
That is success to me.
And having time. Beyond the money I need to function in this society, I highly value having the time to be more than acquiring more ‘stuff’. Time to be on my own. To be with others. Having the time to smile, to chat, to listen, to walk, to follow my flow, to grow. Having the time to love. Did you notice how it ‘takes time’ to really love people and to make them feel loved? That is something I treasure deeply. It’s kind of old fashion and not very sexy, I realize that. It never makes newspaper headlines. But it makes me smile. Every time.
How do I measure a result like that? By how much I smile and by how well I sleep at night. By how healthy my immune system is.
Of course there is the Law of Attraction. And the people who tell me I can manifest anything I want. As I have many times in the past. That I can manifest everything I want. I would need to manifest a warehouse to store all my everythings in it! I don’t want to manage a large warehouse. So I need to decide what I really want. I mean really. What makes me happy every time? And manifest THAT. Which will be the measure of my success, regardless of what other people think makes THEM happy, material or otherwise.
What makes YOU happy every time? What is the measure of YOUR success?