Seeing Things As They Are
Nostalgia, sadness, heartache, loss: I have spent the past 2 years prone to these shadow emotions of the heart. It makes sense since I am an abuse survivor, I have spent my adult life moving countries and leaving friends and family behind, and I am now at an age when my kids have started leaving home and some of my friends are leaving their physical bodies already.
Then bingo! I realised that when I pine for something I can’t have, it’s usually because I want what I wish it COULD be. I’ll repeat that: when thinking about something makes me sad, it’s usually because I am sad I can’t have what I wish it would be. But when I see it as it REALLY is, I don’t want it anymore, because as it is, it is not what I need or desire. Then I can stop pining for it, let go of the sadness caused by not having it and start creating what I really wanted in the first place.
The trick, of course, is to see and accept things as they really are and not as I wish they would be. Left to my own emotions, I can numb myself, check out, delude myself, stay in denial. So I use energy work to clear the shadows and to bring more light and truth to all that nostalgia and sadness. Because if something was great in the first place, I rarely feel sad that it’s gone. Instead, I feel grateful and privileged that I had it/lived through it in the first place. What was lived well leaves me happy. What was unfulfilled at the time is what leaves me pining and nostalgic.
Try it: think of something that makes you sad and decide if you are seeing it as it really is or as you wish it would be. You can share in a comment below: I would love to hear what you think about this!