Empath: How to Stay Centered

by Sophie on August 29, 2011

For a long time I thought that being an empath was a curse because I was constantly overwhelmed by other people’s thoughts and emotions and I could not make the difference between my own inner landscape and theirs. Confusing to say the least. Depressing if you live with a chronically depressed person, very up and down if you have a bipolar friend, happy for no reason when you have happy friends… You get the picture!

With help from my healing mentors and teachers, I learned to differentiate between my own emotions and other people’s in my personal life. I learned to be very rigorous when I worked so that I did not take on my clients’ negative (or even positive) thoughts and emotions. My life improved dramatically by just doing that.

At times I would still become overwhelmed if many people were in fear, as happens during a tsunami or major earthquake for example. So I learned to detach from such waves of collective consciousness.

Now when I feel bad for no reason, I automatically command that my energy be detached from everyone else and I usually find my center pretty soon after that. Try it and let me know how it works for you!

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1 Marva Weigelt August 30, 2011 at 10:45 am

I relate a great deal to your experiences, including finally learning the art of detaching. I also have one additional aspect that I wonder if you relate to, a fairly recent development (2-3 yrs). Sometimes when I connect to a wave from the collective consciousness, I feel drawn to allow it to flow through me for conscious transmutation, as if I am processing/purifying difficult emotions on behalf of the collective. It feels like a sacred task and often happens in the wee hours of the morning (2-4 a.m.).


2 Sophie August 30, 2011 at 11:37 am

Hi Marva!
Thank you for commenting! Yes I relate to the sacred task of processing difficult emotions on behalf of the collective. I used to do it a lot before I had kids, in the traditional Tibetan Buddhist practice. In that context it is often know as: inhale sadness etc, transmute it into joy and exhale the joy into the world for others. I have heard of shamanic practices that are similar.
I choose NOT to practice it because my body is not strong enough to protect itself from so much negativity and because I am still responsible for children on a daily basis. My first priority is to be the best mother I can be to them and I don’t want my moods etc at home to be affected by my healing work.
I choose instead to stay very centered and grounded and to shine bright, which is what I was going to talk about in another post in a few days.
Having said all that, if you can do it easily and stay healthy and balanced through it all, it’s a really cool thing to do for the world!


3 Nataly August 30, 2011 at 11:37 am

Thanks Sophia- it’s exactly what I needed to hear today.


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